After I lost my virginity at 17, while in high school, I was told, oh, don’t have sex with too many men, you don’t want your vagina to get loose.
That was the trend amongst my high school peers. In other words, avoiding multiple partners to keep our “number” low and dodge the slut, hoe or freak labels.
High school, most times, is when sex slides into focus. Students worrying less about the lies told in our history books and more of who was having sex, how was it, and how much sex were they having. While a freshman in college, I worried about how the inside of my pussy felt. Whether my partner could notice how often I had sex after a few strokes.
How can a vagina have the ability to push out an eight-pound baby but someone’s micro-penis can dismantle my entire pussy?
Goodbye.
I analyzed what men may be referring to when thinking of loose pussy. I concluded perhaps they’re referring to pussy lips aka the labia. Labia lips are on the outside of the vulva and come in tons of variations. Therefore, they shouldn’t be judged or alluded to loose or tight.
Anywho, the vagina is a muscle. An elastic muscle that can snap back into its original form. Like any muscle in our body, proper care and exercising can tone our muscles.
Clue (currently my favorite app to track my period) explained the pelvic floor is a group of ligaments and muscles that protect our uterus, bladder and bowel organs. A strong pelvic floor means strong and supported organs positioned firmly in place. Ways to strengthen your pelvic floor include kegel exercises, vaginal weights and core strengthening.
In fact, Healthline justifies a loose pussy is a myth.
Aroused vagina means the vaginal walls widen and moisten. Tight vaginal muscles mean the body is not relaxed, not prepared, and will not self-lubricate. Self-lubricating is a skill us ladies naturally do when we’re turned on.
Healthline explains health concerns and life happenings affect the vagina’s wellbeing. Health concerns that may affect vaginal muscles and tissues include vaginismus, endometriosis, and even a yeast infection. Be sure to speak with your doctor if you’re having too much pain during sex and unsure to the cause.
Childbirth and age are prime reasons vaginas’ elasticity may change.
Not your dick, fellas.
Women’s estrogen levels decline as they get older into pre-menopause. Estrogen keeps vaginal tissue alive and well. If the estrogen levels decrease, vaginal tissue will become dry, thin, less stretchy and inflexible.
Multiple childbirths may contribute to losing elasticity. However, once again, core strengthening and kegel exercises will strengthen the vaginal floor muscles if maintained before, during and after pregnancy.
In short, loads of penetration, big or small dicks do not result in a loose pussy. It is simply a myth. True, large dicks may be intimidating and worrisome. However, the key is being in the mood, turned on, and relaxed enough to have fun with whatever size dick you encounter. No discrimination to small peen, but I refuse to listen to a man judge my pussy or lecture me about my pussy if he can barely handle his own equipment.
Fellas, if the pussy does not feel moist and “loose” to you, if it doesn’t feel tight–or even too tight, consider you are not doing a great job.
