Multiple partners in sex is fun in general. I’ve had threesomes (plus some) before, so I understand why those who haven’t tried it, want it. Multiple hands pleasing several places at once is a huge turn on. But I need to know what’s wrong with two men enjoying the same woman at the same time?
I find MMF (male-male-female) threesomes fascinating. It’s an unfulfilled desire of mine; something I’ve kept hidden away for a while. I want to blame Eric Jerome Dickey’s Pleasure as the cause because he wrote MMF threesomes so beautifully.
Two surveys on my Instagram later, it seems more men are comfortable with going through with a MMF threesome than women.
I’ll admit I was disappointed with the poll results. A good chunk of my women followers declined having sex with two men at the same time. Some think of “gangbang” as having a train ran on them and it made the thought less appealing.
For technicalities, a “gangbang” or “train” is 3 or more men on 1 woman. Your typical, generic gangbang is a forceful situation, so to speak. Not literally, but more of an aggressive manner. A threesome is having three participants in a consensual sex act.
Now, I completely understand 2 men not getting involved with each other will take away the meaning of threesome. But being literal, it still involves three people. My skin crawls when people are so quick to scream “gangbang” at the notion of two men in the bedroom.
In all actuality, if you look up gangbang on any porn site, you will see at least 3 to 5 men on one woman.
Never just 2 men.
Just saying. But anyway.
After speaking to a few of my followers, we agreed male ego and male masculinity are the culprits. Due to upbringing and conditioning, men grow up believing anything sexually involving another male is inappropriate. The solution to this is: knowing your partner and getting out of your own head.
It’s so easy for men to receive the two-women threesome they desire, yet problematic for women to find two men.
A lot goes into a MMF threesome if a woman is really serious about it. The men involved feed the desire. Naturally, women want to tango with respectful men who won’t make her feel like shit after. Personally, I like the idea of meshing two types of men: the rough type and the love maker. Somehow having the best of both worlds is difficult to receive.
Women have to make sure they aren’t meeting with disrespectful men. Another troubling factor behind being a woman. Some things are rather difficult for us to get. It’s socially acceptable for two women to be sexually involved, and therefore, creating this threesome is easy. A lot of men want a threesome with two women and it’s easier to make this dream come true. I know there are women who want threesomes with another woman, and that is fine.
Another point to think about is how our minds may change once fantasy becomes reality. There is the possibility of enduring sensory overload. Fellas may want those two girls in bed, but once he sees them waiting for him, he realizes it’s too much. The same goes for women! Yes, the idea of two men on us is glorious but it becomes a bit intimidating and nerve wrecking when they’re actually in front of us.
Communication is the key to successful sexual relationships. Our partners are unable to fully please us if we do not speak up to say what we want. I relate to women who want to switch things up in bed. However, women who know their partner well enough feel their desires are too far-fetched. Knowing your partner and what they will or will not handle is crucial.
Sadly, there are men who expect their woman to be comfortable with another woman in the bed, but refuse to welcome another man. And this is my main issue and why normalizing MMF threesomes will make the world a better place (partially). Normalizing this in our bedroom gives women the chance to explore sexual parts of their self, and enjoy it without feeling ashamed or discouraged.
I hope some men wake up and realize everyone is free to their own sexual liberty. I hope men realize the presence of another man in the bedroom does not emasculate them.
Ladies, if you’re digging both men and they’re open to please you the way you want, I say go for it.
But my two cents to my men readers: don’t knock it until you try it. And don’t discourage a woman for wanting to explore a part of herself.
I say be a little adventurous. If the opportunity presents itself, why not give it a try?
