Self-Love is the Best Love

May 1st marks the start of National Masturbation Month.

Masturbating is fun, healthy, and important. I like to play with myself three to four times a week. You can masturbate whenever you feel like it because you are not waiting on anyone; before bed, in the shower, when you wake up. Sometimes even creating sexual tension thinking about masturbating or fucking someone can rev you up just right.

I find masturbation to be important because it gives us a chance to love ourselves, accept ourselves, and understand our bodies. We come into a practice of learning what arouses us and how to please our body immensely. It’s becoming closer to your mind and spirit, believe it or not. You’re creating a connection to your inner self when you put time aside to feel good.

I always encourage my women friends to masturbate. When we lay down with someone, and leave the bedroom unsatisfied, it’s hard to determine who is to blame. I like to say it is a mix of both. If you do not understand how to have a delightful orgasm, how can you expect someone else to do it for you?

Believe it or not, being 25, I happen to know some women in my age group who don’t masturbate, never masturbated before, or don’t know how. I never judge them. In fact, I get excited and explain to them why they should.  Here’s a few facts about masturbating:

• Improves sleep quality
• Increases your ability to have more orgasms when with a partner
• Reduces stress, tension, and anxiety
• Strengthens muscle tone  and relieves menstrual cramps

You may be reading this and realizing you don’t masturbate or you’re too nervous to try. I want to tell you do not be nervous at all. You can do this without telling a soul! Unwind and relax; maybe a few candles or soothing music will get you in the mood.

Begin imagining what you want your Man Crush or Woman Crush doing to you. Use your imagination to put yourself in a trance or dream-like state and the more you imagine it, the more it begins to feel real. Start touching yourself, get acquainted with your pussy lips, clitoris (or dick; I am sure there are some dudes out there too prideful to admit they don’t jerk off) and caress yourself. Take notice of your breathing, focus on your clit, breasts, nipples, your body movements and keep picturing this person making you feel good and enjoying every inch of your body. You’ll begin to feel like you’re about to go over the edge. When that edge happens, just embrace it and your body make convulse or tremble, but you may feel this big explosion and release.

Don’t be afraid to do it or talk about it. We’re growing and learning, and it’s so much fun discover new ways to get ourselves off.

If you’re older than 21 and you have masturbated for the first time very recently, anonymously share your story to my Juicy’s box.

Happy Masturbating!