For years, I have enjoyed displaying my sex appeal because I love being sexy, showing my lusty side and having full control over when and what I show. I post thirst traps, I post lusty-eyes, all because I know I can, I want to, and I feel confident doing it. A lot of women know they can do this; some want to, others aren’t there yet–either/or is completely fine.
It is very important for women to see “regular degular schmegular” girls being comfortable in their skin. I want to lead the way for girls out there who don’t find themselves to be as sexy as they truly are. However, when we see an “ordinary” girl–someone who does not have 36,000 followers or promoting flat belly tea–we start to accept our truth about ourselves or become motivated to work toward feeling sexy. It is completely okay to not have a tiny waist, a big ass, or super, long hair; you are still gorgeous and you have to find outlets to feel that way.
I take ownership of my sexuality, my body, and my thoughts with no shame. Here are a few things I partake in every single day to help me feel sexy and godly:
- Oil.
- Personally, after a nice, steamy shower, I enjoy rubbing my body all over in coconut oil or some type of mix of oils that keep my brown skin moisturized and glistening. My favorite is Shea Moisture’s Fruit Fusion Coconut Water Massage Oil. It is a very light oil on the skin, smells sweet and keeps my thick skin very smooth to the touch. I’ve heard nothing but compliments when someone touches me. Baby oil is an easy go-to, but look for something that actually nourishes your skin with nutrients and vitamins. You can also get oils by itself such as coconut oil (cold pressed is best), avocado oil or even sweet almond oil.
- Music.
- During or after that steamy shower, I often play chill vibe R&B music. Sometimes I go straight 90s, other times I tap into what’s in right now like the Weeknd or Sampha. Nothing works better than hearing someone sing sweet melodies about pleasing you or how beautiful you are, even if you hear it over a speaker bar. The tunes of the music usually help me slow down, unwind and admire myself. Currently, SG Lewis – Yours is a favorite on my playlist. But this song, In the Morning f. Big Lean by Mr. Eazi drives me up! I replay about three times while I’m showering and it makes me feel tingly.
- Candles.
- Candles are an absolute novelty for me! I love them. Absolutely adore creating new scents in my space or just having that red-glow illuminate the room and establish something intimate. Right now, my favorite candle is Yankee Candle’s No. 1 Coconut and Sea Air. Smelling it sends me to the beach, laying out in a skimpy bikini sunbathing in my natural habitat. There’s no need to spend a lot on candles, either. Grab a bulk bag of tealight candles and set up a few around your room and really heat things up.
Nonetheless, we are in control of our own sexuality and preferences; no one else. I respect those who are conservative and those who are not. I take full responsibility for displaying myself in a certain way because majority of my day is catering to myself; making sure I feel and look amazing. When we are happy with ourselves, we want to show the world; not for anyone’s approval or validation.
Take a second to figure out what makes you feel confident and sexy, and share some advice in the comments. Or let me know in my Juicys Box your most sexiest moment!
