Pass the Check: Women Pay for Dates

Women open up their wallets for men, we just don’t hear about it.

It’s rare you hear about women willingly paying for dates. The happenings are not rare, but I do think it is taboo because men are uncomfortable with this concept.

Personally, I don’t mind paying for a date. Especially, if we have great chemistry and I see we are comfortable with each other. If I know I have the money, I don’t see anything wrong with paying for him if I know he would do it for me.

Of course, we’re traditional in some ways, and I do feel the man should pay for the first date. But on the other hand, if I see potential for another date, I’ll offer getting him a drink or paying the tip.

Sometimes, at the second or third date, I’ll grab the check myself and surprise them. I see this impresses the men I’ve done this for, but I do not do it to impress, I do it because I like him and show I like someone by doing things. A lot of women have no issue paying for a date, especially if they’re feeling him.

I can’t lie ladies, your intentions for his wallet are so much more apparent than his company if you always say, “when are you taking me out,” “you should buy me lunch” or “you owe me a movie.” It’s pretty much the same concept of us being able to tell a man’s intention is solely for pussy.

Recently, I listened to #DontDebateCutty’s radio show. One of his featured guests, Bruhmanfromthe5thFloor, explained he would pay a pretty penny on a date if he believed she would give him pussy—based off her choice of a restaurant. The show led to the discussion that if men like a woman, they would not take her to a 5-star restaurant. Spending money is not a problem for them if they know they will definitely get pussy.

This logic actually sounds dumb to me, so I won’t touch too much on this topic at this moment. But all in all, men, money and dates are a slippery slope. I know for sure, this idea does not comply with women who are content with paying for dates.

I notice men are used to being expected to pay. The thought of a woman even paying makes them itchy. This is why I think we don’t hear about women paying for dates. The scenario is questioned as unreal, but it isn’t entirely allowed by some men.

I asked a few men how comfortable are they with a woman paying for a date. A couple of men told me they get uncomfortable and do not like to see a woman pay; they won’t even accept gifts. This seems to take a hit to their ego and masculinity. Another told me, he would respect and love a woman who paid for a date. It shows she’s not after his money and wants to get to know him.

Society tells us men are the providers and women are the homemakers. But that is evolving into a new level. Women are taking more control of their dating life, and that starts with their pockets, too. We’re making more money (though, we still make less than men), and we have the means to spend.

Though a woman paying for dates is not mentioned too often, it is happening and very common. Women have money. They aren’t afraid to spend it on someone they like. But, unlike men, they do not flaunt how much they pay for dates, nor do they feel like they have to tell the world.

If a woman (and also a man, ladies) notice they are dealing with a “broke” person, they have a hard time paying constantly. However, there are men who accept “taking turns” on who grabs the check knowing both parties have money.

Fellas, if a lady picks up the check, don’t get uneasy or feel emasculated. Everyone deserves special treatment. You want to feel appreciated, and she can do that with a date.

Ladies, have you paid for a man on a date? Share your experience in the comment section below. Let me know if you enjoyed it or despised it.