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Pass the Check: Women Pay for Dates

Women open up their wallets for men, we just don’t hear about it.

It’s rare you hear about women willingly paying for dates. The happenings are not rare, but I do think it is taboo because men are uncomfortable with this concept.

Personally, I don’t mind paying for a date. Especially, if we have great chemistry and I see we are comfortable with each other. If I know I have the money, I don’t see anything wrong with paying for him if I know he would do it for me.

Of course, we’re traditional in some ways, and I do feel the man should pay for the first date. But on the other hand, if I see potential for another date, I’ll offer getting him a drink or paying the tip.

Sometimes, at the second or third date, I’ll grab the check myself and surprise them. I see this impresses the men I’ve done this for, but I do not do it to impress, I do it because I like him and show I like someone by doing things. A lot of women have no issue paying for a date, especially if they’re feeling him.

I can’t lie ladies, your intentions for his wallet are so much more apparent than his company if you always say, “when are you taking me out,” “you should buy me lunch” or “you owe me a movie.” It’s pretty much the same concept of us being able to tell a man’s intention is solely for pussy.

Recently, I listened to #DontDebateCutty’s radio show. One of his featured guests, Bruhmanfromthe5thFloor, explained he would pay a pretty penny on a date if he believed she would give him pussy—based off her choice of a restaurant. The show led to the discussion that if men like a woman, they would not take her to a 5-star restaurant. Spending money is not a problem for them if they know they will definitely get pussy.

This logic actually sounds dumb to me, so I won’t touch too much on this topic at this moment. But all in all, men, money and dates are a slippery slope. I know for sure, this idea does not comply with women who are content with paying for dates.

I notice men are used to being expected to pay. The thought of a woman even paying makes them itchy. This is why I think we don’t hear about women paying for dates. The scenario is questioned as unreal, but it isn’t entirely allowed by some men.

I asked a few men how comfortable are they with a woman paying for a date. A couple of men told me they get uncomfortable and do not like to see a woman pay; they won’t even accept gifts. This seems to take a hit to their ego and masculinity. Another told me, he would respect and love a woman who paid for a date. It shows she’s not after his money and wants to get to know him.

Society tells us men are the providers and women are the homemakers. But that is evolving into a new level. Women are taking more control of their dating life, and that starts with their pockets, too. We’re making more money (though, we still make less than men), and we have the means to spend.

Though a woman paying for dates is not mentioned too often, it is happening and very common. Women have money. They aren’t afraid to spend it on someone they like. But, unlike men, they do not flaunt how much they pay for dates, nor do they feel like they have to tell the world.

If a woman (and also a man, ladies) notice they are dealing with a “broke” person, they have a hard time paying constantly. However, there are men who accept “taking turns” on who grabs the check knowing both parties have money.

Fellas, if a lady picks up the check, don’t get uneasy or feel emasculated. Everyone deserves special treatment. You want to feel appreciated, and she can do that with a date.

Ladies, have you paid for a man on a date? Share your experience in the comment section below. Let me know if you enjoyed it or despised it.

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  • Wraw

    August 17, 2017 at 11:58 AM
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    I've been on a few dates, and things will go great but when the bill comes it can be awkward. I guess fortunately for me […] Read MoreI've been on a few dates, and things will go great but when the bill comes it can be awkward. I guess fortunately for me I'm old fashioned so I pick it up like I'm slaying a dragon lol. But it's more so the looks that a woman makes when it's coming that I'm more interested in. Some woman don't really pay it any mind cuz that's what there used to, some give you the deer in headlights look like "is he gonna ask me to pay, cuz I don't want to." this one has the most meanings and it's hard to play off, and for some woman it's also has to do with ego. I think woman feel special or worth it when a man pays so to have to pay is kind of a blow to that. I respect when woman pay (although it's more the gesture cuz I'm one of the guys who get the itchy feeling lol) now a days it shows interest and says I want this to be fun and comfortable for both of us. Read Less

    • Dov
      to Wraw

      August 17, 2017 at 7:27 PM
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      Growing up I was always taught that the man is always suppose to pay on a date . Once I started dating it became routine […] Read MoreGrowing up I was always taught that the man is always suppose to pay on a date . Once I started dating it became routine .im not going to front the first time a woman offered to pay I felt disrespected . (Honestly it was just me ego trippin ) But as you said that showed me that she actually wanted to get to know me . (Hindsight is 20/20) she wasn't after my wallet . In conclusion it's dope when a woman offers to pay . Listen fellas don't let your ego blind you from a good woman who has her own funds in tact . At least be open to taking turns on who pays . Read Less

  • Bae

    August 16, 2017 at 8:27 AM
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    I'm trying to get used to my lady paying for a date. I'm evolving with the times and I have to say I do feel […] Read MoreI'm trying to get used to my lady paying for a date. I'm evolving with the times and I have to say I do feel very appreciated! But that don't mean she gotta get the last bite 😩✊🏾😜 Read Less

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